Wanna be in my team?

People in my team know what our mantra is to achieve our BHAG: Dream – Team – Focus – Network.

To build a breakthrough TEAM, I keep nagging about three keywords: WOW, Open Communication and Cheer. Three powerful words from The Orange Revolution that I find extremely difficult to implement. Average teams fail in at least one of these areas because:

  • They don’t go for worldclass
  • They talk behind each other’s back
  • They focus on the weak points of the teammembers and don’t cheer each other to victory when a mistake was made. They don’t see a mistake as a learning-opportunity but as a way to “punish” people.

These three words describe the difference between a group of individuals, a team and a breakthrough team.

I constantly look for means to explain to the team and to newbies what these three words actually mean to me. Here’s a great video from Robin Sharma about WOW.

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How to Turn a Bad Day Around

Nice post on Harvard Business Review linked with The Happiness Advantage (people who start off happy are more likely to succeed; people who start off unhappy are more likely to fail). Reminder to self: ask Santa Claus to deliver me that book.

Bottom line on how to turn a bad day around:

Do:

    • Think of three things that you’re grateful for
    • Consider what you’ve already accomplished even if it’s minor
    • Reflect on what triggers your bad days and which tactics help to turn them around

Don’t:

    • Believe that you are a victim of your circumstances—you choose whether to be negative or positive
    • Hunker down at your desk—change scenery and take a few deep breaths
    • Set unrealistic expectations for your day

Have a Herculean weekend!

Dealing with opposition

The closer you get to realising your dream, the more you expose yourself to opposition from the universe. You need to know who you are before you know how to handle opposition and who’s on your side.

I’m an Achiever, personality type 3. I love opposition and competition, as long as it helps me achieve my goal. I listen easily to good feedback and adapt if I feel it will make me reach my goal in a more effective way.

However, if if feel that opposition blocks me from reaching my goal, I have to be very aware of what could happen to me (and the opposition too by the way). If I don’t handle it in the right way, I will try to convince the opposition that they are wrong and this is what happens to me:

  • I work even harder until I’m exhausted
  • I detach from people that love me the most

Authenticity, honesty, optimism, ambition and self-confidence stop that negative spiral, but you will need a lot of it. And you will need support.

I’m lucky that my best buddy in life is an 8, because she’s the one who gives me forthrightness in expression, fearlessness, physical vigor, and determination to achieve my personal vision. So whenever something or someone blocks me from reaching my goal, she jumps in.

I’m lucky that my three kids are the best. My two girls and boy share so much wisdom from very different perspectives, that I just have to listen to them to know my priorities again. It’s as easy as that.

I’m lucky that my parents are the best. After 43 years, they start to understand what my goal in life is. They’ve been there, supporting and challenging me, ever since I was a little boy. Talking to them always reassures me that they’ve got my back.

So if I handle it the right way, this is what I say to myself

Now, let’s call my gang to see how they are doing in Belgium and then go for brunch at Petite Abeille in NYC!

On a separate note: if you want to know more about your core values or personality type, ping me. The Hercules Academy has great coaches to help you. I know, because I work with them every day.

Getting things done in the age of distraction

Got the questions again this week: how the hell can you have a life, a family and run a global business that is growing rapidly – with all the negative and positive forces that come with it – without throwing yourself under the bus in this age of distraction?

First of all, I stick to our mantra “Dream – Team – Focus – Network” constantly. Each topic needs its own approach. To stay focussed, get things done and thus avoid distractions, I follow many of the tips below. However, when it comes to “prioritising to do’s”, which is unfortunately never mentioned in these GTD-charts, I use SCRUM.

As I’m very focussed by nature, the hardest part is how to learn the less focussed people in a team to focus!

I hate meetings

People who work with me know I HATE one thing with every cell of my body: MEETINGS. When I say this, typical “managers” will give me “the look”. Well you’re not going to win this battle, because I’ve experience for many years that meetings don’t get things done, and that’s what entrepreneurs do: getting things done.
meetingsDoes that mean I’m not a teamplayer or a bad communicator? Of course not! A meeting is just one form of communication (and everybody goes home with a different perception) and you really don’t build great teams by holding meetings. So if you do see me in a meeting it will probably have these characteristics

  • 90% transpiration, 10% inspiration: stop talking, start doing.
  • small groups (preferably one on one)
  • short, to the point, solving one thing at a time, work to a solution in the meeting (solutions can change 2 days later, but it’s better to make a decision with the information at hand than not to make any decision)
  • preferably not around a table, but during a 30min walk
  • avoid brainstorms, unless you have to brainstorm and if you have to brainstorm: do it outdoor to clear your mind. No great inventions were discovered in a meeting…Inspiration will hit you anytime, anyplace if you are focussed and not while holding a meeting.