Dealing with opposition

The closer you get to realising your dream, the more you expose yourself to opposition from the universe. You need to know who you are before you know how to handle opposition and who’s on your side.

I’m an Achiever, personality type 3. I love opposition and competition, as long as it helps me achieve my goal. I listen easily to good feedback and adapt if I feel it will make me reach my goal in a more effective way.

However, if if feel that opposition blocks me from reaching my goal, I have to be very aware of what could happen to me (and the opposition too by the way). If I don’t handle it in the right way, I will try to convince the opposition that they are wrong and this is what happens to me:

  • I work even harder until I’m exhausted
  • I detach from people that love me the most

Authenticity, honesty, optimism, ambition and self-confidence stop that negative spiral, but you will need a lot of it. And you will need support.

I’m lucky that my best buddy in life is an 8, because she’s the one who gives me forthrightness in expression, fearlessness, physical vigor, and determination to achieve my personal vision. So whenever something or someone blocks me from reaching my goal, she jumps in.

I’m lucky that my three kids are the best. My two girls and boy share so much wisdom from very different perspectives, that I just have to listen to them to know my priorities again. It’s as easy as that.

I’m lucky that my parents are the best. After 43 years, they start to understand what my goal in life is. They’ve been there, supporting and challenging me, ever since I was a little boy. Talking to them always reassures me that they’ve got my back.

So if I handle it the right way, this is what I say to myself

Now, let’s call my gang to see how they are doing in Belgium and then go for brunch at Petite Abeille in NYC!

On a separate note: if you want to know more about your core values or personality type, ping me. The Hercules Academy has great coaches to help you. I know, because I work with them every day.

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Hire and fire…by values

“Values are fluffy, weak, tacky. Success is all about mission, strategy and execution.” At Herculean, we don’t agree with that statement at all. In fact, looking at the past years, we only hired and fired by values, never by skills.

Values define how you expect to regard your customers, community and suppliers, how you want to behave toward each other; and what will have priority, as well as the lines you will and will not cross.

If values of the organisation match the values of the individuals, chances for a successful collaboration increase. We have experienced that if just one of those values doesn’t match, chances for failure increase even more.

Within the Hercules Academy, we even experience that when values do not match well, chances for individual burnout increase. In our burn-out recovery and prevention programs, we often come across these issues. We also help organisations embed their values within the organisation.

Values reflect our assumptions and beliefs. Values serve as a decision-making guide and a source of energy for the organization. Values shape the behavior of the people in an organization. They determine how people treat each other, how they approach their work and how they interact with others.

Recruiting people who already have values that are in alignment with the organization’s core values is important to actualize the mission and vision. You can easily train a person on how to do a job, but it becomes much harder to train a person to have the same values as your organization so pick wisely.

Likewise, when it comes to firing someone usually it is a value-related decision.  “They’re just not the right fit,” you hear often.  What they mean is that the organization has a set of values and beliefs and the person being let go doesn’t align with those values. It doesn’t mean the person of the organisation are “bad” or that the values are “bad”, it just means that the magic wasn’t there given the circumstances and that the relationship isn’t meant to be.

When people look at Herculean they easily associate us with “wow”, “fun”, “great”, “yeah”, “cool”, “wanna be part of this” but 99% of the people forget the hard work, the struggle, the suffering… behind the scenes. It’s not because we run a very cool company, that we don’t face the same challenges as any other company. We try to repeat our mantra, values and believes as much as we can:

  • Our Mantra: Dream – Team – Focus – Network
  • Our believes: WOW – Open Communication – Cheer
  • Our values: find them here

As you can see they are totally different from our mission and our strategy.

So we believe that values are not some mushy, feel-good literature we put around our organizations.  They are the determining factor of who gets on our bus, who needs to get off our bus and where we plan to head once the bus is going full steam ahead.

Need some help on those values? Contact the Hercules Academy.

The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship

Good article by John Rampton

“Every entrepreneur will experience the real price of entrepreneurship at some point in his startup career. If you haven’t yet, you will. It’s hard. It’s something I’ve had to deal with several times since quitting my job years back. The real psychological price of entrepreneurship can be too much for some to take.”

Read all about it on http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/244159

7 Unexpected Signs You Might Be an Entrepreneur

LinkedIn Influencer, Ryan Holmes, published this post originally on LinkedIn

Yes, you’ve got to be passionate, resilient and all that other good stuff. But there are more subtle qualities needed, as well. Networking with other entrepreneurs over the years through Hootsuite and working closely with young up-and-comers, he noticed that a lot of us share some common personality traits. So, without further ado, you might be an entrepreneur if…

1. You’re restless, and no achievement ever seems good enough. (CHECK)

2. You’re a control freak. (CHECK)

3. You’re a masochist.  (CHECK)

4. You have a love-hate relationship with money. (CHECK)

5. You’re a black sheep, and maybe even a dropout. (I WAS IN MATH 🙂 )

6. People think you’re crazy. (CHECK)

7. You’re somewhat introverted. (Mmmm not sure)

Read the whole article on Entrepreneur.com

7 Unexpected Signs You Might Be an Entrepreneur

5 routines to clear mental clutter

In recent years I’ve experienced that “FOCUS” is the most important challenge for most people. Too many distractions leads to poor decisions, bad health and zero results. It becomes a negative spiral.

I’m a winner, winners need results and focus is one of the key elements in my daily mantra. When I feel down at the end of the day, it’s typically because there was a focus problem and I had too many distractions.

Here’s a great article that can help you. I use all 5 techniques on a daily basis.

Entrepreneur mindset

I recently bumped into a very interesting blog on “10 ways entrepreneurs think differently”. I could relate very much to every single point! Jason Demers nailed it with this one! He is founder and CEO of AudienceBloom, a Seattle-based SEO agency. He also started Crackerize.com, a lyrics-humor website. He’s the author of the ebook, “The Definitive Guide to Marketing Your Business Online.”

Entrepreneurs are a unique breed of people. While some people sit and fantasize about the glamor of being their own boss and creating their own business, those in the thick of business ownership understand that even considering all its rewards, entrepreneurship is a difficult and complicated path.

The world’s most successful entrepreneurs aren’t the ones who impulsively quit their jobs to chase a get-rich-quick idea. They are the ones with an entrepreneurial mindset — a set of perspectives and values that allow them to achieve greatness.

These 10 perspectives are differentiators you’ll need to have or develop if you’re going to be a successful business owner.