My Third lady (Inge Van Belle is my First and my mum Second :-)) gave an epic speech about values and beliefs. I couldn’t agree more and thought it was more than appropriate to store it as “one of those moments”.
The more perceived “success” you have, the more people will “go low” on you. Don’t fall into the trap and just ignore the hateful. Go high instead! Stay true to your values and beliefs. Lead your Herculean life, don’t sit back, make a difference and never ever quit.
People who work with me on a daily basis know one of my firm believes: “the need for speed“. I can become quite “passionate” when things don’t go faster than I expected or when people don’t understand they can do things a lot faster than they think. Every day I make it my mission to speed up the way things go in my daily tasks, but also within our team.
I know…it can feel like a lot of pressure, but if I don’t give you pressure, I probably don’t believe you can grow any further, so stop complaining and deal with it. You would be surprised about the speed you can reach.
Here’s a very nice article that illustrates why speed is a great weapon in business.
Great article by Shawn Achor and Michelle Gielan in HBR.org on how to deal with secondhand stress. Observing someone who is stressed — especially a coworker or family member — can have an immediate effect upon our own nervous systems. Here are some remedies to improve your emotional immune system:
- Change your response
- Create positive antibodies
- Build natural immunity
- Inoculate yourself
“You’ve always been a high achiever—top of your class, captain of your sports teams, star performer at work. Now, you’re going to be managing a team of high-performers in a division of your company that everyone’s buzzing about. You’re confident that you can navigate this new challenge with characteristic success.”
You’re pumped. You set clear goals for yourself and targets for the division. You’re well aware that you’ll need to rely on your emotional intelligence skills to understand and work through your new team’s dynamics. You’re focused on achieving your goals and getting results… but before long, you’ve got problems. Your team doesn’t seem to be on board with your plan and they’re not delivering. Worse, they seem to be shutting you out. In desperation, you go to a few trusted mentors who tell you:
“You’ve inherited the cream of the crop. I’m not sure they even really need a manager, they’re that good and that motivated.”
“These are our stars. You noticed, I’m sure, that you’re the third new manager appointed in the past two years?”
It turns out it’s not so easy to manage ultra-smart high achievers — especially when you’re one of them.
Awesome read on HBR.com.
People in my team know what our mantra is to achieve our BHAG: Dream – Team – Focus – Network.
To build a breakthrough TEAM, I keep nagging about three keywords: WOW, Open Communication and Cheer. Three powerful words from The Orange Revolution that I find extremely difficult to implement. Average teams fail in at least one of these areas because:
- They don’t go for worldclass
- They talk behind each other’s back
- They focus on the weak points of the teammembers and don’t cheer each other to victory when a mistake was made. They don’t see a mistake as a learning-opportunity but as a way to “punish” people.
These three words describe the difference between a group of individuals, a team and a breakthrough team.
I constantly look for means to explain to the team and to newbies what these three words actually mean to me. Here’s a great video from Robin Sharma about WOW.
Nice post on Harvard Business Review linked with The Happiness Advantage (people who start off happy are more likely to succeed; people who start off unhappy are more likely to fail). Reminder to self: ask Santa Claus to deliver me that book.
Bottom line on how to turn a bad day around:
- Think of three things that you’re grateful for
- Consider what you’ve already accomplished even if it’s minor
- Reflect on what triggers your bad days and which tactics help to turn them around
- Believe that you are a victim of your circumstances—you choose whether to be negative or positive
- Hunker down at your desk—change scenery and take a few deep breaths
- Set unrealistic expectations for your day
Have a Herculean weekend!
You make thousands of rational decisions every day — or so you think. From what you’ll eat throughout the day to whether you should make a big career move, research suggests that there are a number of cognitive stumbling blocks that affect your behavior, and they can prevent you from acting in your own best interests. Business Insider had an interesting article on the 20 most common biases that screw up your decisions (thanks for the tip Peter Hinsen)